
Separation, patience a struggle for teen pair
awaiting adoption
Web Posted:
08/03/2006 11:48 PM CDT
Jeanette Scarsdale
Health Careers High School
For Heather and Angela, a typical day
for this pair of 14-year-olds includes going to school, studying,
playing games, showering and eating dinner.
These girls love participating in
sports, music and arts and crafts.
At first glance, they are an average
pair of best friends, spending time together, enjoying each other's
company, but what most people don't see is what matters the most.
They are waiting to be adopted. Their
dreams are normal, too. Heather wants someone to walk her down the
aisle.
Angela wants to be part of a family.
When her mother died, her four younger siblings were adopted to the
same family, leaving her to live at a residential treatment center.
"I was so used to being in charge,"
said Angela, who "raised" the children as her mother worked to pay
bills and the children's father refused to help.
According to the Dave Thomas
Foundation for Adoption, there are more than 555,000 children
nationwide in foster care, and more than 120,000 of those are
waiting to be adopted.
However, the San Antonio area has
only about 100 foster homes available to children, making it
difficult to place the 2,500 kids who need of a home.
Professional photographers volunteer
their time and talent to photograph children awaiting adoption for
the Heart Gallery of San Antonio, which highlights the need for
foster care. Included in a traveling exhibit are portraits of 50
children, including Heather and Angela.
The exhibit is displayed in corporate
lobbies, community and nonprofit centers. The difficulty of placing
teens in homes is a result of their ages; many families are not
interested in adopting or fostering children who will not be part of
their lives for long.
"There is a tremendous number of kids
who need foster and adoptive care" said Bill Whipple, Child
Protective Services' director of foster care recruitment.
When children reach 18, they "age
out" of the system, making them unavailable for adoption, and if
they are adopted during their teen years, most people consider that
they will soon be leaving home.
While it may be difficult to find
places for older children, searching for homes for younger children
never seems to be a problem.
"There's no shortage of families for
the little ones," Whipple said.
Dealing with the separation from her
siblings, her mother's death, and five years in Child Protective
Services, Angela has overcome obstacles that to many seem
unimaginable.
"To tell you the truth, I don't know
how I do it, I just do it," Angela said.
With the assistance of therapists and
the staff members of the center, both Angela and Heather have
bettered themselves, learning to deal with issues in a positive way.
"I breathe and take five seconds and
let it go, because it's not worth it to get upset. I've been trying
really hard to do what I've got to do," Heather said.
As the girls learn to deal with
frustration, they are rewarded for their progress. By being calm and
following instructions, they are awarded passes to leave with family
members for longer periods of time as behavior improves.
"I was a very bad runaway. I'm just
earning back my trust," Angela said.
As Heather and Angela wait to be
adopted, their desire for stability and love in their lives is
thriving.
Annette Landry, a case worker at
Child Protective Services, hopes that as they grow, a family will be
there to support them.
"I want somebody to be there when I
need help," Angela said.
As the anxious waiting continues,
Heather and Angela stay strong and faithful.
"God's the one that prepares you for
your future," Angela said, knowing that the challenges she faces now
won't hold her back.
Heather adds, "Anything is possible
if you just have faith."